57 responses to If someone breaks your heart…


    Ok, I try most things at least once.


    What if, I don’t like the ice cream?


    Wedding Feast

    Matthew 22: 8-14: “Then saith he to his servants, The wedding is ready, but they which were bidden were not worthy. Go ye therefore into the highways, and as many as ye shall find, bid to the marriage. So those servants went out into the highways, and gathered together all as many as they found, both bad and good: and the wedding was furnished with guests. And when the king came in to see the guests, he saw there a man which had not on a wedding garment: And he saith unto him, Friend, how camest thou in hither not having a wedding garment? And he was speechless. Then said the king to the servants, Bind him hand and foot, and take him away, and cast him into outer darkness; there shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth. For many are called, but few are chosen.”
    Pretty rough treatment for not being properly attired. You and I have been to the wedding feast, and we were properly attired. Then something went wrong and our garments got defiled. All of a sudden both of us were on the outside looking in, and I, at least, was left to wonder what happened. As I have continued to think about this, taking into consideration things shared over the past year or so, it has come down to the eyes. I think what we are wearing is seen in our eyes.
    “So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offense. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It’s your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it.” Colossians 3:12-14
    I believe that the appropriate garment for a wedding feast is “the look of love.” You talked about it being gone from the eyes of your boy friend, and you couldn’t get it back. The look of love invites you in. when it is gone you are locked out. The other look, the look when love is gone or injured, has many facets to it, but they all are woven together to make a barrier or curtain, precluding the possibility of intimacy.
    The look of expectations, or theology or doctrine or lust or agenda or injury or disappointment or defensiveness or hostility or devastation or rejection or insecurity or fear or revulsion or judgment or offendedness or doubt or suspicion or accusation or evasiveness or self-righteousness or haughtiness or despair or sadness or woundedness, and on and on and on the list could go:
    Matthew 6:22, 23: “The light of the body is the eye: if therefore thine eye be single, thy whole body shall be full of light. But if thine eye be evil, thy whole body shall be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in thee be darkness, how great is that darkness!”
    I John 1:5-7: “This then is the message which we have heard of him, and declare unto you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all. If we say that we have fellowship with him, and walk in darkness, we lie, and do not the truth: But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin.”
    I saw right away that the look had gone from your eye, and that was very painful. But of equal concern was that, in reaction, the look was gone from my eye as well, and that had to be my first concern. I never want to look at you except with the look of love, otherwise, I drive you or me or both of us into outer darkness. I don’t want you in outer darkness. I want you in the light. From the first negative phone conversation two weeks ago last Friday until the last email I sent, I had been struggling to get the look back. The look can’t be faked, because the “The light of the body is the eye…” The eye is the window into what is really going on inside the body – what we are wearing in the most important sense. I have the look back!”
    The best advice I can give you in response to a number of the questions you asked tonight, is to “… walk in the light…” As for my part, I ever remain available to help you do that. I think your present situation is evidence enough that I am able to do that without betrayal.
    I love you with a love which could only have come from above, and what a joy it is to find it in my heart, and know that you are its object.
    Grace, that resonates in your own heart, all I can say is to keep on keeping on. Do what ever you can to get the look back in your eye. For me the only way was to “fix my eye on Jesus.” I saw that even while the nails were still in his hands, the look of love was in His eye for me. If He could do that for me who nailed Him there, how can I not do as much for others, even as they pass by thinking nothing of my pain, Lamentations 1:12.
    Jay Ferris – letter to a spiritual daughter


      This is very interesting, but was this meant for me? Do you have me mistaken for someone else?


        Ummm… I think it was meant for you…

        “So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offense. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It’s your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it.” Colossians 3:12-14

        Personally, I’m going with your idea. 😀


    Haha awesome! Question though: what do you do if you’re the guy with the broken heart? Although my ex did things that would warrant an action, I don’t hit a woman at all. Go straight for the ice scream? =)


    hmnnn…me thinks there is a bigger story here…..hmnn………?!


    l love this… brightened up a cold and frosty morning :).


    I love it! Ice cream is a good fix for a lot of things! Lots and lots of ice cream!


    made me smile this morning!


    Reblogged this on madamepompadour82 and commented:
    Why haven’t I met Mr Frank Ocean earlier in my life??? His advice is wise beyond measure!!!!


    Hmm, I try not to hold grudges, I see all the heartbreak in my past as a learning experience. It has made my current relationship that much stronger. Make love not war man! *laugh*


    Reblogged this on A Bipolar Journey Through The Rabbit Hole and commented:
    If I didn’t think I would be arrested for assault and battery, this might be a good solution….


    You mean if someone deceives you or cheated on you? Are your 1000 days up,or what?
    Women can hit who ever they want to and get away with it – guys can’t. If some guy breaks your heart- he didn’t deserve you, for giving it to him. Smack him, then shove the ice cream in his face , take his picture and put it on a blog site. Lots of ice cream..
    Hope you or whoever, feels better soon.


      🙂 Oh nothing has actually happened. I am still very much single and very much happy, I just saw this on facebook yesterday and it made me smile so I put it on my blog. A lot of people who visit my site are people who are in the process of breaking up or people who have had their heart broken. This quote is something to hopefully put a smile on their face. 🙂


        Some people only eat ice cream in the summer. They may manipulate someone to have to break their heart in the winter, just so they can have ice cream. You never know..


    To avoid court fees and possible criminal charges punch a punching bag then go eat ice cream (ha-ha) And the person you punch ALWAYS has a big, bigger than you sister 😉


    Punch them in the face by simply leaving them. Their loss. Wallow in it.


    There are quite a few I would like to try this with.


    Reblogged this on My Rabbit Hole Trips and commented:

    Something new to try.


    hilarious thanks for the laugh, you brightened my day.


    Yes! Sweets and violence! Although the editor in me is coming out and wanting to insert a space between ‘ice’ and ‘cream’, I really love this.


    Haha! This would be a totally viable reaction if and only if the person who broke my heart was a dude! Somehow I just can’t see myself full on decking a woman in the face! Still, very funny. Well played, Vanessa. 🙂



    Wow that made me laugh way too hard. I feel kinda bad, but also good… Oh dear 🙂


    Thanks, I just might consider it – I’m almost certain that will make me feel better! 😀


    haha, thats brilliant. thanks for sharing


    Hey Vanessa, there’s nothing like getting preached at. He must have had it already to copy and paste just for you. Although I think wedding feasts aren’t on your agenda right now. Bless him. Thumping someone gives you that millisecond of pleasure and satisfaction – then you find out you’ve broken a knuckle on their extremely hard head and it kind of loses its buzz.


    Too funny…I’m all for ice cream, nothing like it, so comforting. It should be prescribed as treatment for all taters of the heart and ailments 🙂


    thank you SO SO SO SO SO SO much for liking my blog! I can’t bealive your SO popular and you liked my blog out of all of them! Thank you SO SO SO SO much!
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      🙂 Oh silly! Thats ok. I like reading new blogs because all blogs had to have a start somewhere right?
      I wish you all the best. Keep writing, and as long as you enjoy writing, enjoy what you write about and remain sincere, people will read what you have to say.


    ummm… wow!! LOL Frank Ocean was indeed serious I guess!

    love your blog by the way!


    Hey thank you for stopping by my blog! I love yours! Please check out my latest post


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    I have had my heart broken by someone and have broken their heart several times in the past. I guess by way of that quote, it would end up in a street brawl. I do like the ice cream part though. 🙂


    Reblogged this on Diatribes on Dating and commented:
    Okay, I don’t advocate violence… but this did make me smile. 🙂


    Reblogged this on What I'll Never Say Out Loud and commented:
    I love this so much!

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